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themiracleforest: Hand in hand, my demon an…

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Hand in hand, my demon and I walk.

It is wired into us to turn away from the negative. To try to avoid anything painful, uncomfortable or anything we label as “bad.”

But is working to make our lives as pain-free as possible a useful aspiration?

Most of my life, I struggled with anxiety. When I was little, I thought it was how every human felt. When I grew up and it got worse, I just wanted it to go away. Every thought, every feeling associated with it, I just wanted to forget it and never remember it again like a useless memory that slips from the mind unnoticed.

But that never happened. Because trying to forget is basically the very act of remembering.

Then I realized that life was very much like a Chinese finger trap–the more you want to leave something behind, the more stuck you get to it. What you resist persists. What you fight, you strengthen. That kind of thing.

Many people choose not to keep up with current events, because the state of the world we live in can be devastating sometimes. Many choose not to educate themselves about how their food is made or what the plastic bottles they throw in the trash does to the world. Or about what a single offensive word can cause another human being to feel and why. Because why plague our minds with such negative things, right?

I was once in a very low place myself, when I couldn’t handle the tragedies of the world, so I chose to surround myself with positivity. I needed uplifting, because I was trying to crawl out of a hole I had sunk into too deeply. And before I could turn toward the pain of the whole world, I had to gather the courage to slowly turn toward my own.

Only after facing our own tragedy can we turn toward the tragedy of others.

Life is not homogeneous. It is made up of joy and sorrow. Of happiness and pain. Of positive and negative. If we are only seeing one side, our lives are incomplete.

It is so easy to get stuck in pain, which is the very reason we chase happiness. But neither is complete without the other. Wanting to be happy all the time means wanting to live in a lie.

There are so many horrors in this world. Just as many horrors as there are wonders. When someone is hurt, there will be people rushing to their aid. When someone’s rights are threatened, crowds will come together in protest. A tree falls in a storm at one side of the Earth, and a flower grows from the concrete on the other. A lion is shot by hunters, and another is rescued by environmental activists. As Thich Nhat Hanh said, “It would be a pity if we were only aware of suffering.”

I think it’s important to add that it’s also a pity to only chase happiness and turn away from pain. Because only by allowing ourselves to live through pain can we experience the other side of the coin–happiness.

When we have an aversion to discomfort, pain, embarrassment, suffering or anything “negative,” a fear lingers in the backdrop of our lives like a constant demon behind our backs we are too scared to turn around and face. And with a demon behind one’s back, who could be carefree, at peace and happy? Read the rest>>

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🎧 Winter Forest Ambience | 8 HOURS Relaxing asmr Soundscape

8 hours of a relaxing magical winter forest ambience. Listen to the snow softly falling from the frozen trees as woodland animals sometimes make themselves heard in the snow. Great as a study aid, relaxation aid or sleep aid. Enjoy.

themiracleforest: Nothing Is What We Thou…

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Nothing Is What We Thought: 3 Tips for Our Issues 

The more I learn about how the human mind works, the more baffled I am that we are never taught anything about it.

Bullying, friendship and relationship drama, low self-worth, anxiety–issues most us face growing up would be much easier to deal with if we learned about the human mind, thus understanding ourselves and others better. A lack of understanding only causes these early life experiences to grow into bigger issues in adulthood.

As an adult, I see how many issues I have. And I also see that they all stem from my early life. Some from my childhood, some from my teenage years and some from young adulthood.

We all go through different experiences, and it is important to learn to process these experiences in a healthy way so that we don’t draw faulty conclusions from them that stick with us for a lifetime. So that if someone says that we are ugly, we will not store that away in our minds as fact. Or when people make us feel uncomfortable, we don’t develop a habit out of shaming ourselves for our feelings.

1. Nothing is what we think

We look at our thoughts as truths. We don’t doubt them, and if anyone else doubts them, we get outraged. We think we remember the past and see the future. Because if it’s in our heads, then it’s bound to be true.

But our memories are only distortions of the past. And we never know what will happen in the future. 

The feelings we are so afraid of–they are not like we think. Fear is not as scary as we think. Pain is not as painful as we imagine. Love cannot be thought. So many things in life can only be experienced, yet we believe that how we picture them is how they really are.

Just because we think something, doesn’t not make it true. An opinion is not a fact. Thoughts don’t come to life. And what we think doesn’t define us at all–what we do does.

2. Feelings are not shameful

It is especially prominent in our society that we are required to hide our feelings, because we are supposed to act in a certain way. How unnatural and harmful.

We see this all the time with social roles like gender roles, but the same kind of thinking manifests in many unnoticed areas in our lives.

Any sort of “negative” feeling is frowned upon. We shouldn’t be sad or anxious, and if we are, we should learn to hide it or pop a pill to just make it stop. It’s unacceptable to feel. Feelings have become a sort of social plague that people cannot face neither in themselves nor in others. It’s absurd, because it is the most natural part of being a person.

We are supposed to shun what makes us human. No wonder we have issues. Read more>>

 (via Nothing Is What We Thought: 3 Tips for Our Issues)

themiracleforest: GUIDED MEDITATION: Building…

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GUIDED MEDITATION: Building Confidence and Letting Go of Anxiety

A guided meditation for building confidence when anxiety seems to get the best of us, and we fall victim to that little voice inside our head that tells us we are not capable. This guided meditation will hopefully fill you up with confidence as it will help you let go of all that is limiting you. ♥

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themiracleforest: Can We Change Who We Are?…

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Can We Change Who We Are? Leaving the “Bad” Parts of Us Behind

There is a fine line between wanting to better ourselves and wanting to become different people.

There was a time in my life–probably multiple times, actually–when I wished I could leave a part of myself behind and just become a different person. We all have that part of ourselves we don’t like. When we imagine ourselves without that part, we are near perfect.

For me, it was anxiety. That demon of a feeling made my life very close to unbearable at one point. And I wished more than anything for it to go away. Somewhere under it, I was a different person, I felt it. Without it, I could be myself, I could be free, I could be happy.

I’m sure we all know this feeling. That if “that one thing” would just disappear from our lives, we could be truly ourselves. We could be happy. There are a lot of different types of hardships in this world, and everybody carries around something different like an invisible but very heavy backpack.

It seems obvious that if we could put that backpack down and forget that it ever existed, we could prance forward, carefree. But could we, really? Or is that just what we think would happen?

Who would we be without our pain?

We can only answer this question theoretically, since we will never be able to live a life of only pleasantries. But some suggest that the answer would not be as simple as we imagine it to be.

Haruki Murakami introduces the idea in his novel The Wind-Up Bird Chronicle that upon losing the pain they so desperately want to get rid of, instead of becoming the joyful person they imagined, a person would become an empty shell, unable to feel anything at all.

Nothing is as black and white as we think it is, that’s for sure. What we think is going to happen turns out to be a completely different thing in the end. We think we are pulling one thread out, but everything ends up unraveling.

How we deal with pain, may that be physical, emotional or in the form of any kind of hardship, is one of the core questions of being a human. Because pain is an inevitable part of life.

That’s why we try to better ourselves. So we can deal with our own, unique pain better, and maybe to lessen the pain of those we love. And that’s a beautiful thing. But where does bettering ourselves end, and wanting to leave an essential part of ourselves behind begin?

There are many things about ourselves we cannot change, no matter how much we try. Just like we cannot change the color of our eyes or our skin, there are certain areas of our brain we cannot change either. We cannot change our past, we cannot control every emotion we feel or the thoughts that enter our mind.

Thinking that we should be in control only makes us feel like failures. We will never be in full control of every aspect of ourselves. We were never supposed to be.

On this side of things, another fine line approaches. And that is between accepting who we are and throwing our hands up in the air, declaring “I can’t change!”. We cannot change a lot of things about ourselves, and we cannot fully control what happens to us either. But we can choose how we react to all those things.

We can see our thoughts as just thoughts. We can see our feelings as just feelings. We can see our pain as an inevitable part of life–of ourselves. And even though we cannot control all of those things, we don’t have to let them control us either. Read more>> 

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themiracleforest: GUIDED MEDITATION: Blissful…

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GUIDED MEDITATION: Blissful Rain Meditation

A guided meditation made to help you towards acceptance and peace as you listen to the blissful sound of the rain. Love and light ♥

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themiracleforest: Making a Bad Day Less Ba…

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Making a Bad Day Less Bad 

The older I become, the more I learn to accept the darker parts of life. When I was younger, I thought the goal was to eliminate everything negative. To get rid of life’s bumps and make everything nice and smooth.

I see a lot of people who struggle with life because of this reason. I’m still one of those people. I always will be, probably.

We want all our days to be good days. That is the standard. We are addicted to joy.

Joy is great, don’t get me wrong. It’s a natural part of life. But so is sorrow. Whatever shape it might take in one’s life. This sorrow is what most of us have such a hard time accepting. We hide it like a secret we should be ashamed of and check if our mask of joy is still on straight.

It’s not acceptable to be anything other than joyful. We cannot accept it in ourselves, so we avoid it in others.

This is a never-ending struggle with our own existence. Because there will be bad days. On the good ones, our guard is down, because “everything is as it should be”. But the bad days we have to resist, we have to fight.

Keeping up this resistance and the carrying that mask of perfection on our faces is incredibly exhausting. And it creates even more sorrow. Because we are sad about our sadness, we are scared of our fear. We multiply our pain.

What happens if we accept that we don’t need to be anything other than we are? That we don’t need to control our feelings all the time? That we can just sit in peace and be unapologetically ourselves?

Feelings are just feelings. Thoughts are just thoughts. They are just there. If we don’t take them so seriously, and we don’t want to control them all the time, we might even be able to smile to them. Because actually, they don’t mean that much.

Feelings and thoughts are much like spoiled children. They often throw a tantrum and demand our attention. You can’t reason with a child. You can’t give in to them and let them control you, because that will just make the child even more spoiled and demanding. My mom always ignored me when I was throwing tantrums. It worked great, let me tell you. If no one’s listening, there’s no use in shouting.

If we don’t take them too seriously, feelings and thoughts can’t control us. Read more>>

 (via Making a Bad Day Less Bad)

themiracleforest: GUIDED MEDITATION: Magical …

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GUIDED MEDITATION: Magical Sunlight Relaxation

A guided meditation inspired by gentle sunlight and the magic that is all around us, always. I hope you’ll enjoy. ♥

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themiracleforest: Building Confidence with …

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Building Confidence with Anxiety, Anger or Sadness

When dealing with ourselves, our thoughts, feelings and emotions, confidence is of vital importance.

Believing in oneself might not immediately come to mind when talking about issues with anxiety, anger or other strong emotions. They are states of mind accompanied by strong feelings, and dealing with them usually requires being able to reach a calm attitude. If we manage to become calm, we are not controlled by our strong emotions anymore. Sounds simple enough.

When someone is angry or anxious, the advice they most often get is “just calm down.” As if calming down was as easy as that. Being able to calm down when in such a chaotic emotional and mental state requires a lot more than simply the will to calm down.

There is always a voice in our head at times like these. A voice that makes us believe that going deeper into the feeling is the right choice–getting more angry, sad or scared. But is it?

Let’s take anxiety for example. When anxiety strikes, the voice in our heads says “You have to be afraid. Something horrible is about to happen. Run.” And the rational part of our brain tries to step in and reassure us that nothing is happening.

“What is that?”
“Everything’s fine.”
“No, it’s not!”
“But it is.”
“No, it’s not. Do you feel that feeling? That’s the obvious sign of something horrible!”
“You’re fine. It’s nothing.”
“But I’m dying!”

It’s kind of how it goes. Anyone who is familiar with anxiety can relate, I think.
We have to get acquainted with this conversation in our head, because it will happen time and time again. This conversation is different for everyone and it evokes different emotions. We all know our own personal weaknesses. The sooner we can recognize it and step into this conversation, the lesser the emotional response will be. And this is where confidence comes in.

We have to learn to be confident in the thoughts we choose to believe. Read the rest>>

(via Building Confidence with Anxiety, Anger or Sadness)

themiracleforest: A Night in the Forest: 8 HO…

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A Night in the Forest: 8 HOURS Sleep Ambience

Feel like you’re spending a night in a forest with this 8 hour long video. ♥

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