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themiracleforest:

Building Confidence with Anxiety, Anger or Sadness

When dealing with ourselves, our thoughts, feelings and emotions, confidence is of vital importance.

Believing in oneself might not immediately come to mind when talking about issues with anxiety, anger or other strong emotions. They are states of mind accompanied by strong feelings, and dealing with them usually requires being able to reach a calm attitude. If we manage to become calm, we are not controlled by our strong emotions anymore. Sounds simple enough.

When someone is angry or anxious, the advice they most often get is “just calm down.” As if calming down was as easy as that. Being able to calm down when in such a chaotic emotional and mental state requires a lot more than simply the will to calm down.

There is always a voice in our head at times like these. A voice that makes us believe that going deeper into the feeling is the right choice–getting more angry, sad or scared. But is it?

Let’s take anxiety for example. When anxiety strikes, the voice in our heads says “You have to be afraid. Something horrible is about to happen. Run.” And the rational part of our brain tries to step in and reassure us that nothing is happening.

“What is that?”
“Everything’s fine.”
“No, it’s not!”
“But it is.”
“No, it’s not. Do you feel that feeling? That’s the obvious sign of something horrible!”
“You’re fine. It’s nothing.”
“But I’m dying!”

It’s kind of how it goes. Anyone who is familiar with anxiety can relate, I think.
We have to get acquainted with this conversation in our head, because it will happen time and time again. This conversation is different for everyone and it evokes different emotions. We all know our own personal weaknesses. The sooner we can recognize it and step into this conversation, the lesser the emotional response will be. And this is where confidence comes in.

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